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Another beautiful, raw, honest piece. Thanks for sharing it with us, Cindy 🙏

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Sep 27Liked by Cindy Littlefair

Im with this one.mourning a life IS celebrating one.its the real time experience ,at least for me.

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Sep 26Liked by Cindy Littlefair

A clear piece of insight, thank you. It was an enormous relief when my father died, on many levels, but I was not 12 so had to work and struggle through so many layers of strong, conflicting emotions. This is a toast to the human condition, mixed and rich.

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Sep 26Liked by Cindy Littlefair

As usual a very pithy and enjoyable story of your life

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Sep 26Liked by Cindy Littlefair

holy smokes, what a perspective and so beautifully conveyed

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Sep 26Liked by Cindy Littlefair

So true - we’ve forgotten why grieving together is sometimes so important, and that funerals can enable this. Thanks for this. Your writing is very powerful.

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W o w. You are one of my fave writers .

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It's an honour to be a fave writer. Thanks, Cathy.

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Thank you for writing this. I also mourn the loss of funerals.

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Thank you Cindy. Funeral ritual has been a centrepiece in my family and life. Those moments of binding together as family and friends sticks. Thank you. Always. For what you're sharing.

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Cindy, your writing churns my emotions in many raw ways………making me wish I’d hugged you more when I first met you in your early twenties. Hey the good news is……your dear kids are carrying the name Littlefair into the future!

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The kids are carrying the name, absolutely, and I have many warm memories of my time together with you, no need to think it was in any way deficient.

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Brava. I, too, 'love' funerals. And I love that, as a 12-year-old, you offered succor to your father.

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For what it was worth! Thanks, Moira.

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OK this is weird because I haven’t even read the whole article yet and I love your writing 100%, but I was talking to a shaman the other day a woman who it train and being a shaman and she said not having funerals is really messing up the spirits of people they can’t crossover properly without the funeral!!!

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